tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post8714784209079244968..comments2024-02-24T18:44:39.324-08:00Comments on Trials & Tribulations: Out of Statute, But Not Out of MindSprockethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03837416113512618694noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-61255158333853126852009-07-02T20:20:49.875-07:002009-07-02T20:20:49.875-07:00http://www.millspeninsula.blogspot.com/ has a funn...http://www.millspeninsula.blogspot.com/ has a funny photo gallery of Dr. Ayres. Check it out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-40245881295684419142009-07-02T10:51:55.502-07:002009-07-02T10:51:55.502-07:00San Mateo Daily Journal has unlocked the original ...San Mateo Daily Journal has unlocked the original Dr. William Ayres Arrested thread. Thank YouAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-4492940114518558772009-07-01T22:20:19.475-07:002009-07-01T22:20:19.475-07:00No court until Monday, July 6. The defense might f...No court until Monday, July 6. The defense might finish up their case by the end of next week. Dang this trial is going much faster than they thought.Trapellarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01271397690598293203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-83443610484878281432009-07-01T10:56:08.873-07:002009-07-01T10:56:08.873-07:00PA, you said everything I wanted to say to DS. I t...PA, you said everything I wanted to say to DS. I think he is incredibly brave. And I admire your own daily battle and bravery against PTSD. I have friends who fight this (at varying levels) and I hate being so utterly helpless to do anything but stand there and say “you are not alone.”<br /><br />Anon @ 11:26:<br /><br />I do try to watch the jury, but like so many others have said, trying to guess their behavior is like trying to play poker while blind. Difficult.<br /><br />I sit by one of the out-of-statute victim’s mother. She does a bit more jury watching than I do, as I’m frantically scribbling notes and trying to maintain some direct quotes (easier said than done; I don’t know shorthand, I do journalist’s scribble!). But I can tell you this: The three men on the jury are active listeners and one is a voracious note-taker. There is one woman who was on her second notebook as of last Friday (testimony started Tuesday). There are a pair of young women who spend an awful lot of time looking at their fingernails (the mother is very concerned about these two). There is an older woman who looks utterly bored. Most listen attentively though a few will yawn and look away if things get repetitive. <br /><br />All are “old enough” to be parents, and I’m sure there have to be jurors who are parents. Perhaps there is one who dealt with ADD/ADHD as a child or have their own ADD/ADHD kid. It’s a safe bet none have been molested or know anyone who was—I can’t imagine either side wanting to keep someone like that on the jury. <br /><br />I have obligations here in Santa Clara County today so no court for me. I trust you will get an excellent recap of the testimony of the 4th out-of-statute “propensity to molest” witness later today from the Watchdog blog.CaliGirl9https://www.blogger.com/profile/06639398512708841968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-44615096145907274432009-07-01T07:54:17.897-07:002009-07-01T07:54:17.897-07:00I heard that Ayres walked up to an in-statute vict...I heard that Ayres walked up to an in-statute victim who was waiting to testify and said "You should be a basketball player." Sickening. Sounded like a come on line. A complaint was made to the judge. With his remark to the mother of a victim "Isn't it a lovely day?" and now this, Ayres is becoming a loose cannon. <br />That arrogant "tude" ain't gonna get him anywhere in state prison.<br /><br />The creep has no remorse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-63022974356192502652009-07-01T07:52:06.206-07:002009-07-01T07:52:06.206-07:00To Anonymous June 30 at 11:26 pm:
The most intell...To Anonymous June 30 at 11:26 pm:<br /><br />The most intelligent looking juror - and also the most focused and intense- is a man who appears to be in his late 40s with grayish hair and wire rim glasses. Looks a bit like Steve Jobs. You can see how hard it is for him to take in all the details of the abuse.<br /><br />One day after several victims had testified I saw this juror sitting outside on a break, bending over from the waist, his head down and doing deep breathing. You could see the weight of the victims' testimony weighing heavily on his shoulders.<br /><br />Some jurors take diligent notes, while others - particularly a very heavy woman who has trouble walking - just sit there with a blank look. She worries us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-85024049341953436552009-07-01T07:43:26.414-07:002009-07-01T07:43:26.414-07:00PA You asked if "Weinberg asking the witness ...PA You asked if "Weinberg asking the witness from chilhood abuse to being a therapist now why he did not report this as a mandated reporter.<br /><br />Was Weinberg trying to make some reference that in the time span of childhood to now that as soon as you graduate and become a therapist you report your OWN sexual abuse?<br /><br />Would a mandated reporter be at fault for not reporting their own abuse as a child?"<br /><br />That is exactly what Weinberg was implying. The good news for the victim witness is that San Mateo County has demonstrated several times already in this case alone that reporting sexual abuse by Ayres to the CPS will accomplish NOTHING.<br /><br />We should change CPS to DPS. Doctor Protection Services.<br /><br />The witness was brave and did the right thing.<br /><br />Welcome to San Mateo County<br /><br />Michael G. StognerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-78869614668689635922009-06-30T23:26:49.967-07:002009-06-30T23:26:49.967-07:00After the Spector trial I thought I was through wi...After the Spector trial I thought I was through with reading about criminal cases. However, the reporting and things I have learned from this case really make me realize why this site is becoming a "must read" for many. As it presents in- depth, compassionate and good factual material as well as gives a personal view. If there is bias it is honest bias and not really awful bias as you see in some blogs. <br /><br />I doubt any newspaper or any other commercial news media would attempt to present this sort of information, by a careful and intelligent listener. This is very fine reporting, and groundbreaking, a new sort of news.<br /><br />Thanks very much for all you are doing, it is, I am sure, appreciated by many readers. That it allows the readers to be more discriminating if they were to get on a jury is also of great benefit, I'm sure. <br /><br />On another note I too agree that when someone gets a degree in psychotherapy that they probably wanted to work on their own issues as well. Further, I believe victims of sexual abuse suffer a lot of shame and usually don't talk about it at all but carry it with them, thus they suffer a lot,--- so it seems pretty normal that the victim wouldn't go out on a crusade against the venerable Dr. Ayres. <br /><br />Are you able to describe any jury reactions to what is going on?<br /><br />Thanks again!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-14753363163513343832009-06-30T23:04:19.860-07:002009-06-30T23:04:19.860-07:00Deep Sounding,
I don't think you are screwed ...Deep Sounding,<br /><br />I don't think you are screwed up, in fact you are extremely smart!<br /><br />What you probably have is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. You have it but it doesn't have you.<br /><br />I have it too. At first I just wondered how long it would take me to get over being so mad! That was the focal point of my PTSD. This anger that I would stuff down.<br /><br />I have to tell you that sometimes I rememebr before I had PTSD I felt a lot lighter. Sometimes I wish I could go back and feel like I used to.<br /><br />It comes and goes. There were days when I thought of nothing else and was a big day dreamer.<br /><br />But now I am at about 8 years later. Somedays I am amazed at the way I was like a chihuahua stuck to the pant legs of the justice system. I never gave up.<br /><br />Throw in being diagnosed with a rare disease that nobody knows anything about. It is a lot to live with. Worry about the future etc.<br /><br />Do I think the PTSD will ever go away. No. Is it better yes.<br /><br />The question is though are we all the total sum of all our experiences good and bad, I guess.<br /><br />Did I ever think this was the way it would turn out - no.<br /><br />But I am glad I never gave up.<br /><br />I imagine you will have your days, the anger, the what if, the guilt, was this your fate, the why me.<br /><br />I guess what I heard once was we can't control the radomness of the world. Bad luck.<br /><br />I have PTSD and a rare incurable condition. It sucks.<br /><br />I can imagine this case is bringing up a lot of issues you may not have dealt with.<br /><br />I can and do have moments where I forget and I really love those!<br /><br />Someday you might have those too. But I finally stopped blaming myself and stopped the guilt, cause something was done to us, we didn't have anything to do with it.The Patient Advocatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08780750241399470542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-48032270625630049792009-06-30T19:15:17.378-07:002009-06-30T19:15:17.378-07:00I wanted to thank Caligirl for her Herculean effor...I wanted to thank Caligirl for her Herculean efforts in getting over to the Redwood City courthouse every day and then turning out spectacular pieces on the trial as soon as she gets home.<br /><br />Those of us who have been following the case for years offer Caligirl our deepest thanks for covering this trial.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-63488919156152490072009-06-30T17:41:28.937-07:002009-06-30T17:41:28.937-07:00Hey Trials and Tribulations -
You passed the 1 mi...Hey Trials and Tribulations -<br /><br />You passed the 1 million mark in views today. Congratulations!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-15655089338480003272009-06-30T17:40:21.740-07:002009-06-30T17:40:21.740-07:00Ayres had an office manager named Barbara Yee Grea...Ayres had an office manager named Barbara Yee Grealish. Someone over at www.millspenisula.blogspot.com posted a comment that sounds like someone who works for him and has a deep knowledge of his finances and work habits:<br /><br />Comment:<br /><br />On the $$ issue, ayres saved 20% of his gross earnings each year and invested it for retirement over his 45 -year career. He charged his patients a lot. I beleive he had quite some $$ saved up in his 401K.<br /><br />However, his previous settlement must have cost him a lot. Otherwise, he would not had to sell his Hillsborough house. I know that house is his pride and joy.<br /><br />The Bill Ayres I knew was arragant, demanding and narcissistic. Though I can't say whether he indeed committed the crimes. The fact that he turned around and sued his own group that always supported him was terrible. And it truely showed what kind of person he really is. I am horrrified that I was once associated with him. I despise him.<br /><br />June 12, 2009 2:23 PMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-57872239949394038752009-06-30T16:41:01.174-07:002009-06-30T16:41:01.174-07:00I'll tell you what, reading these descriptions...I'll tell you what, reading these descriptions has really brought back some icky memories. I remember clearly the big things, but I'd forgotten some of the subtle details. <br /><br />For example, when I talked to the police I didn't mention getting a "hernia exam", it was one of the more minor offenses, and I just didn't remember it, but upon reading witness testimony, it came flooding back, along with some specifics that aren't mentioned here, like how he positioned his hand, palm against my thigh, grasping it as he was doing the "exam." NO doctor has EVER done it this way since then. (Especially without a glove, and these days, you can't talk the doc into doing a hernia exam even when you know you've got a hernia...)<br /><br />In some ways this is all very good... I struggle with "experts" talking about the whole "false memory" thing, and wonder if somehow I'm just screwed up. I've never discussed what happened in there with anyone (Other than relaying it to the police, who offered no feedback or pointed prompting), and so when I have this memory nudge about something I've forgotten, by someone else who experienced the same thing, and then it brings back this flood of very real memories, I feel very much relieved that I'm not crazy.<br /><br />Imagine having to live with that guilty feeling every day.<br /><br />OK.. I'm rambling and scattered now. I'll shut up.Deep Soundinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111463003069045187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-27412989546256388012009-06-30T16:30:23.038-07:002009-06-30T16:30:23.038-07:00PA, I have no answer to your question. And now tha...PA, I have no answer to your question. And now that you mention it, I hope the DDA finds a way to clarify if that witness had to be a mandated reporter on his own case! I think the witness gave an excellent answer though—I am hoping at least one of the jurors has a college education that was challenging and he or she can remember just how focused he or she was while earning that degree. That victim no doubt knew his education would be interrupted by an investigation if he self-reported. His way of healing was learning more about it and preventing it in from happening to other people.<br /><br />And yes, I agree that the DDA had better find a way to throw the concept that the other doctors, nurses, social workers, anyone who referred a kid to his "care" was a mandated reporter! <br /><br />The DDA might also want to bring up how many people actually worked in Ayres' office—was it just the good doctor maintaing his own appointment books, or did he have a receptionist? If so, where is that person? How many boys did she see leave that office in a hurry, shirts unbuttoned and untucked, not speaking and obviously upset?<br /><br />Thank you for the positive dialogue.CaliGirl9https://www.blogger.com/profile/06639398512708841968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-84652081147228432512009-06-30T14:53:41.186-07:002009-06-30T14:53:41.186-07:00Great reporting CaliGirl. Thanks for that.
I do n...Great reporting CaliGirl. Thanks for that.<br /><br />I do not understand the part about Weinberg asking the witness from chilhood abuse to being a therapist now why he did not report this as a mandated reporter.<br /><br />Was Weinberg trying to make some reference that in the time span of childhood to now that as soon as you graduate and become a therapist you report your OWN sexual abuse?<br /><br />Would a mandated reporter be at fault for not reporting their own abuse as a child?<br /><br />Taking about splitting hairs....I suppose many abuse victims become therapists or advocates because they feel they will have a deeper understanding as a survivor.<br /><br />Weinberg must be desperate to point a finger at a victim as a mandated reporter and claim he didn't report his own abuse.<br /><br />I sure hope someone makes reference to that when or if any of the colleagues of Ayres take the stand to testify to his character, that is IF they even do.<br /><br />I have heard a good many stories that the partners knew of reported sexual abuse but did nothing.<br /><br />So I hope that they get the same question tossed at them.....The Patient Advocatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08780750241399470542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6757696342634699253.post-41476503657406261762009-06-30T14:45:50.404-07:002009-06-30T14:45:50.404-07:00CaliGirl, such testimony as you report here breaks...CaliGirl, such testimony as you report here breaks my heart. These men have so much courage to come forward and speak, as do their parents.ritanitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01798894468241676294noreply@blogger.com